“ I’m not enough” is a deep rooted insecurity in many of us.
It’s often rooted so deep beneath the layers of subconscious mind that we aren’t even aware of it. And yet, it drives our life, it influences our decision making, our purchases, style of work and often poisons and ruins the good that comes into our lives - as we self subbotage. There are so many of these “not enoughs” that are harshly amplified when we browse on social media or traditional media and compare our lives to others - I’m not beautiful enough, skinny enough, tall enough, old enough, young enough, good enough, kind enough, famous enough, talented enough, happy enough, a good parent enough, perfect enough - F&ck! It’s exhausting... and draining... and yet many of us aren’t even aware it’s all happening in the back of our minds. I don’t have a recipe to fix this. Sorry...I’m only aware I also suffer from this “I’m not enough” on occasion. How do I personally deal with it when it arises? 1. I consume very little social media. I never watch tv. I mostly share my content and consume very selectively... 2. I do my best to be kinder to myself - when I catch myself “ not enoughing” myself, I instantly STOP and affirm to myself - I’m enough, I love and accept myself just the way I am...I literally say it out loud or whisper this to myself. 3. I remind myself how important it is to tell my daughter that she is enough and perfect just the way she is all the time. Everything a child hears between the ages of 0-7 becomes their inner dialogue. I affirm to her all that I want her to believe herself to be- that she is kind, loving, intelligent, that she has a good sense of humour. Also, I limit her screen time to 30 minutes a day max ( some days like today zero screen time) and only allow very positive ( non drama ) content. I allow zero social media consumption for her and intend to continue this for as long as possible. All of our issues come from childhood and if I can prevent at least some of it - I will try my best as a parent.
If you have read all of this - I want you to know that I love you and that you are enough and that you are PERFECT just the way you are ❤️